Remember the song from “ My Fair Lady”……
“I’m getting married in the morning! Ding dong!
The bells are gonna chime. Pull out the stopper!
Let’s have a whopper! But get me to the church on time!
I gotta be there in the mornin’
Spruced up and lookin’ in me prime.
Girls, come and kiss me;
Show how you’ll miss me.
But get me to the church on time!”
…….Which brings me to mention the most
important fact of not keeping your guests waiting.
As a guest it is one thing to be waiting seated calmly in the church listening to beautiful organ music but totally another to be waiting in the hot sun, wind or pending rain, on a beach, nervously waiting for the bride to arrive.
I always feel for the grooms at this time; who are often sweating in their suits and trying to look composed while the groomsmen are saying, “She’s not coming Mate,” … “Stood you up,” or other such words to that effect, which of course, offered as a joke, only serve to make the dear grooms even more nervous than they already are.
It really does no one any favors to keep everyone waiting for too long.
So what are the factors that make brides delayed and what can you do to avoid being a late bride yourself?
Number one of course is to make sure that you allow plenty of time for hair and make up. I always suggest to my brides that if you get most of your self ready before the bridesmaids, then you are not nervously awaiting your turn and if things are running behind schedule. You can always touch up your lippy before you leave but we do not want the most important lady of the day feeling unprepared.
If you, as the bride, are ready in plenty of time, you can feel relaxed, allow extra time for photos, make sure that you have a snack or lunch and a drink of water before you arrive and savor these moments with your bridesmaids and parents.
Remember your photos will reflect what you are feeling and you will want to look relaxed, unstressed, radiant and at your best.
If you are running late you will be more prone to nervousness and tears.
Make sure you have allowed plenty of time for photos as you get out of the car and as you and the bridesmaids are walking to the ceremony venue. It is good to have time here to take a few deep breaths and make any final adjustments before you arrive. If the car you are travelling in needs to be parked, this can take quite a while in busy beach locations.
Remember that most often, your guests have arrived at the ceremony venue at least half an hour before you and they have been standing chatting and waiting for the big event. Taking into account the ceremony time and the congratulations and photos after, it often means they can also be there for another hour or so after you arrive and it can be a long time from their arrival time until the reception, so it is only common courtesy to consider your guests comfort.
A good wedding is more often than not, judged on how the guests felt so it is always good to get off to the right start.